Boundaries

I think some people have a lot.
Others don't have any. Then there is all the people in between.
I also think maybe you SHOULD know some boundaries without it being a discussion.
For example, if you tell me I'm fat, I'll punch you in the face. If you comment on certain other features of mine you know I hate (those of you who know what those are, well, you know), I'll probably kick you in the shin or stab you with a pencil in your eye. Well obviously I really won't be violent, but it'll hurt my feelings, I'll say nothing, and I'll cry about it later I'm sure. Aj will make me feel better when I cry cuz he loves me no matter what. He can always make me feel better.
If you're critical of Maggie, well, I hay chu. If you don't know where the line is with some people, just be respectful and polite. You can be funny and have a good time without wondering where lines you shouldn't be crossing are. A great example of this is, I think, Ellen. She is hilarious. She is respectful. She is funny, did I mention she is funny and she wouldn't hurt anyone's feelings...be like her. When you are dealing with me or my family, be like her. I can talk about my family, but you can't. Isn't that a golden rule of some sort? If I complain about something to you, it's not ammo for you to use later. I'm just confiding in you. I have a friend, who's husband is not my favorite person in the world, but would I ever say anything to either make it worse or hurt her feelings? No, I would not. I love her too much to say anything, it's just an understanding.
There is a certain someone who always makes inappropriate mean things to my sister on facebook, he must think it's funny, but I know just by reading it that if you think OH THAT'S WRONG...it's probably in some way hurting her feelings...so then a boundary should be discussed.
Then I don't like confrontation either, makes me very uncomfortable, so be careful how you approach me if for some reason you need to tell me where your boundaries are or if I've crossed them. Odds are, not patting myself on the back, I haven't crossed any lines with you because I've never been one to have alot of enemies or rag on people and say mean things. If I have, oh my gosh, I am truly sorry. I wouldn't have ever meant to hurt your feelings. I'm not a feeling hurter-er if I can help it! :)
I think I know my boundaries, if you say anything mean about my daughter, you're an idiot. Got it? :) If you push my buttons or want to argue about something like Glee not being the coolest show on right now, I'll probably ignore your dumb ass :)
All joking aside, you've got to know boundaries without them always being brought up or talked about. You just do.
I think I'm still learning about my husband's boundaries, but he gets hurt more easily than you'd think. He doesn't let on about much though. We have a few boundaries that took awhile to realize what they were exactly but a long story short, it's about how he deals with my family being close and how protective I am of them. He'd basically always just be with me and Maggie and never leave the house or entertain if it were up to him, but that is not how I am with my family. He's slowly adapting:)
I don't know if you'd call these boundaries or pet peeves, but aj cannot stand when people let their kids put their fingers in a birthday cake and then just serve it up to people like that's ok. He doesn't want cake that's been mutilated! ha
He hates, despises if someone would fart or burp all up in his grill, thinks it's not funny at all, thinks it's gross. My family comes from a long line of farters, but I can't blame him for thinking it's nasty cuz when it comes down to it, well, it is. He doesn't like crowds, end of story. If you ask him what's wrong and he says nothing, I've learned to only ask MAYBE 2 more times, in his own time, IF there is something wrong, he'll tell ME. It could be days later, he's given whatever it is time to process, then he'll share. Usually though, 9 times out of 10, he's just quiet and ok with it. I'm learning to accept this. It's hard sometimes. I think being quiet means something is wrong cuz my family is always talking and pretty loudly I might add:)
Well anyways, just a little boundary vent blog you dumb fat piece of crap with dimples on your thighs and ugly hair and annoying kids and you talk to much and your parents are dumb and I think your jokes are not funny and you try to hard and you're a bad driver and what? you're a democrat? you need Jesus. you shouldn't wear that cuz it makes you look like an oompah loompah and why are your ears that big and those teeth.....................just a few examples of things you keep to yourself:)