Wednesday, November 18, 2009

No Manual? Really?

I was thinking today about all the jobs and schooling I've had. In each job or school, they give you instructions or training or books or tests. Yearly reviews...time clocks...dress codes...cheat sheets...refresher courses....So why on God's green earth when Aj and I pulled away from the hospital about 16 months ago with a LIFE in our backseat was there no test? no training? no manual? not even an instruction pamphlet? They were more worried that I HAD to be wheeled out in a wheel chair for safety reasons and that our car seat was installed correctly. The lady that checked the car seat tugged on the straps, wow that did alot! Anywho, parenting IS flying by the seat of your pants. The more I read and googled sometimes, the more frustrated I became. Oh and comparing your kid to someone else's, big no no. They are all so not the same. My daughter is 16 months old and I'm sure she isn't the only one who eats 6 princess noodles and could care less about food. She still takes bottles, they are nutrients for a non-food could-give-a-hoot baby. She still sleeps with a paci and blanket. Neither of which bug me. What's the crime in wanting to soothe? What's the crime in wanting her blanket to sleep with? I want a quilt and I'm 32 yrs old. She is so not ready to start potty training, I just KNOW she isn't. She's too little in my opinion. The Moms that have kids walking, talking and potty trained at a year must be saints or psychos...cuz I haven't a clue how they did it.
Seems insane to me. I have a sense or feeling about what Maggie needs and when. I KNOW I'm doing good, but what a hard job. It's not like you can quit your job cuz it's not going well, you are a MOM. This job never ends. No one could possibly prepare you for this, wow... so, someone already figured that part out and that's why they just let you drive off (probably laughing) with your baby and just wave goodbye...what could they possibly have told me? What could they possibly have said to make me GET IT? Like, "Hey good luck, it's the toughest most awesome job you'll ever have and you'll cry alot and love alot more?". No wonder there's no manual, I felt so happy to be a Mommy it wouldn't have mattered anyways! Like I'd have read it!

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